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27 March 2006 @ 02:26 pm
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1. Name (how should we address you?) and age: Alex, 22
2. Location: North Vancouver, Beautiful British Columbia
3. Ages of child(ren): Robert, 3
4. Currently pregnant?: Yep!
5. What number pregnancy is this for you?: 4
6. Due date for current pregnancy: July 6
7. SAHM, WAHM, Work in Office, Student, etc: Technically, SAHM. Very, very part-time student otherwise.
8. Areas of mothering "expertise": Gentle discipline & instilling excellent manners, breastfeeding, teaching the monster to "cook".
9. Best part of being a 2nd (or 3rd, etc.) time mom: I'm not there yet, but thus far, the kisses on my tummy have been wonderful.
10. Hardest part of being a 2nd (or beyond) time mom: I'll get back to you. ;)

I've been meaning to join for a while, and I'm happy I finally did!

Question for everyone: Did your older child(ren) attend their siblings' births? We're still sitting on the fence on the issue, mind you it's only been tossed around for a week or so. Any thoughts or perspectives would be helpful. :)
uncoordinated procrastinatorthe_lissa on March 27th, 2006 11:02 pm (UTC)
Our then 2.5 year old will be at our home birth. Sorry I don't have any direct experience with it yet. We will have someone whose sole job it is to take care of my daughter and can take her somehwre if it is not working out for her or us.
Amanda-liciouskandi_bomber on March 28th, 2006 01:56 am (UTC)
I think a home birth would be the ideal place for siblings to witness the birth.
Amanda-liciouskandi_bomber on March 28th, 2006 01:55 am (UTC)
yay and welcome :)

I decided not to have Summer attend k's birth (when i still though i might have a labour) not because she couldnt handle it, but because I knew it could be boring and I didnt want her presence to inhibit anything I felt I might want/need to do.
The sounds you make sometimes can be scary, and its hard for children to see their moms in pain.

(she was JUST 8 at the time)

This time around, I would allow her there for the pushing stage, if she wanted to. but the rest is just a long time for a child to be there when there is nothing they can do.

Just my own feelings though, I think that it would be a really great experience under the right circumstances (having another adult to watch over the child)as well as your own support network.